Like most people in youth or minor hockey today, there are so many things you are being told that you can't always make sense of what you are being told. If you are a parent then you know that this time of the season can be quite stressful. By now your son or daughter have experienced time away from their studies, chores and personal enjoyments. Not too mention YOUR increased level of stress driving them, watching them and helping them stay focused on "all" aspects of thier young life.
So what can you do, starting today, that will help you feel like you are back in control?
Do what you can control. Like every good hockey player knows you can only do your own job. When you try and do someone else's, you create a gap and get in their way. Here is a list of five stress busters.
- Be supportive - ask questions instead of making observations. Realize that you are not playing the game. Decisions are required to be made at an instance. Ask clarifying questions and then listen. You will be amazed at how simple asking a question can get them re-focused on what is important.
- Get yourself organized. Children follow what you do, not what you say. If you are organized and plan what you need to get done, they will learn a life long skill.
- Speak to your son/daughter's coach and teacher. Seek to understand the needs of the people who spend a majority of your child's waking hours. You will see the demand that is put on them.
- Buddy up with another parent. Give your self a break to do other things that are important to your family. At the same, you can give another parent a break while you get to connect with your child and thier friends (teammates).
- Imagine that your child was someone else's. How would you treat them? Probably with fewer rules and more of a free spirited attitude.
Whether you are in Canada, the US or Australia... the same issues come up in this game. Take the time each day to enjoy and share the magical moments. Hockey is a game and is meant to be fun!
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